Power through your worst days so you can enjoy the good ones with this "fight or flight" manual for life (the fake one you live on the internet and the one you actually live).

“I’m not here asking you to fix yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you, okay? I know that how my day goes depends on whether I wake up full of hope or despair. It’s not about what’s happening, it’s about my relationship to what’s happening, you know?” –Grace Miceli, from How to Deal

Dealing with ourselves requires . . . a lot. On the good days, it takes patience and humor; on the bad, it can devolve into online shopping sprees, over-analyzing the punctuation from every text message you receive or baking 4 dozen cookies—for ourselves.

In this relatable and hilarious collection of comic strips, modern day motivational posters, and illustrated lists and diary entries, illustrator Grace Miceli explores how our comfort zones may be a trap, how to stay when you want to run away, and where to find light when everything feels dark—beyond the glow of your phone.

This sharply observed book is a "fight or flight" manual for life (the fake one you live on the internet and the one you actually live), a weird but honest road map from a friend who wants to make it just that much easier for you to navigate your own journey.

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How To Deal knows exactly what you’re feeling and trying to suppress. Grace Miceli works her magic, and makes looking at your most painful thoughts not so painful. This book will hold your hand while you process.—Jordan Sondler, author of Feel It Out
Have you ever felt truly seen by a can of insect repellent or a frozen pizza? Grace Miceli's inner monologue is colorful and nostalgic in a way that is both beautifully subtle and urgently not. This book should be corny – in the way that human emotion packaged for consumption often is – but there's something so true about the whole thing that you often find yourself just grateful someone else said it. Like wandering the aisles of a grocery store because you just didn't know what else to do with yourself, How to Deal is unexpected, not impractical, and weirdly comforting.—Adam J. Kurtz, artist and author of Things Are What You Make of Them
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